Now What?
Thursday, December 27th, 2007It seems we run through the holiday season with the hustle and bustle of everything, but in the end we end up right back at the beginning. We buy our presents and make our food. There are family gatherings with smiles and tension from problems past. At the end of the day though we go to bed, back to our normal lives and are left with a pile of stuff. Some of these things with sentimental meaning and others with none. Some presents left in the box, knowing deep down we will re-gift it because we would not be caught dead wearing that monstrosity. We lay waiting for the next confetti loaded party.
After the season we walk away with the same problems, the same short comings, and the same family that we started with. There may have been healed relationships or forgiveness, but we know those same petty troubles may come around again. I have been asking myself what happens after this emotional seasonal high? What happens when we resume our normal activities and jump right back into the swing of things? What happens after Christmas? Do we just¬? go into seasonal depression until the sun is out and buds bloom?
I think these questions tell me it is all fake. I don’t think things really get answered during holidays. There is too much media hype and “what gift should I get them” stress to really address life. I think it is great to put aside everything, and have family and friends gathered around a tree. But how many people go home feeling alone and caught in an endless loop of holiday high to weekdays alone.
Everyone loves to love. Everyone loves to be loved. It is a natural human desire to have relationships. Sometimes we get caught up in the experience of the holiday to really caress some of our friendships. In the end, I think this is what relationships really need. They need time, not the swiss army knives of holiday presents. Friends need an open ear. After a couple of recent events I have realized, it is easy to miss out on a great conversation during the holidays. One question, one caring comment, or one extra phone call after the holiday tide has settled, can really reveal what is on someones mind.

